Give & Take
In my (rather limited) life experience, I’ve come to realize that as far as relationships go, there are givers and takers. In almost every one of my friendships, it seems as if I’m the giver. I’m the one who calls or emails, I’m the one who plans get-togethers and follows-up with people, and I’m the one who does the ‘favors’. Not every one of my friendships (I don’t want anyone calling me, outraged at the accusation that they’re the ‘taker’ in our relationship), merely MOST of them. And this seems odd to me, given that I’m usually the more introverted, less social component in almost every friendship. Is it possible I’m subconsciously seeking more from these friendships than I currently have? Or is it more likely I’m just picking up the slack that results from the ‘taker’ personalities? Either way, I’m becoming rather exhausted from the whole thing. I’m at the point where I just don’t see many of my friends, because I’m too burnt out to try to get them on the phone or plan a girls night out. Surely there has to be a happy medium….?
Ironically, my sister is the opposite. And I don’t truly think it’s conscious. In my observations of her and her friends, it just seems like no one expects very much of her. I’m not sure if people expect it of me or not, but the perception I get is that if things are going to happen, I’m going to have to make them happen. And I’m currently on hiatus.